Grief over the loss of a baby is something that is suffered in silence in most cases. The sadness experienced by the couple leaves us speechless, being an issue that is sometimes difficult to address or treat with delicacy by those who have not lived it towards those who have suffered it.
Almost two months ago, Chrissy Teigen and John Legend excitedly published the beautiful announcement of their third pregnancy. But this week, they share the loss of that baby they were expecting, making visible pain and suffering that little is said about .
A baby that came by surprise
Chrissy and John are the parents of two children: Luna and Miles, both conceived through in vitro fertilization, which is why this third pregnancy had taken them by surprise, since it happened naturally and without planning it in the middle of the pandemic.
Likewise, they received it with great enthusiasm, and as with other aspects of their lives as parents and their experiences with the birth of their first two children, they frequently shared their progress and the course of their pregnancy.
A painful loss
However, this week they shared sad news on their social networks: after being hospitalized due to bleeding that she suffered for days, the baby they were expecting unfortunately died, despite all efforts to save him .
Both Chrissy and John addressed their followers through their social networks to share the sad news, publishing the images of those last hours in the hospital, making visible the pain of perinatal losses.
We are in shock and in that deep pain that you only hear about, the kind of pain that we have never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite the bags and bags of blood transfusion. It just wasn’t enough.
We never usually choose the names of our babies until the last possible moment before they are born, just before leaving the hospital. But for whatever reason, we started calling this little guy on my tummy Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack fought hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever.
To our Jack: I am sorry that the first moments of your life were during many complications, that we could never give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you.
Thank you to everyone who has been sending us positive energy, messages and prayers. We feel all your love and we really appreciate you.
We are so thankful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we have been able to experience. But not every day is full of rays of sunshine. In these days, the darkest of our days, we are going to suffer, we are going to cry until we run out of tears. But we will hug and love each other stronger, to get through this.
The importance of making the loss of a baby visible
Chrissy’s words are strong and very sad, but just what she has captured in her writing, is what they and thousands of couples who have gone through that heartbreaking pain caused by the loss of a child they were looking forward to live experience.
By posting those images and that message, Chrissy and John not only continue to share their public lives with the world, but raise their voices and make visible perinatal losses, of which little is said and for which more awareness still needs to be raised. and empathy.
Perhaps some people may think that it is wrong to share it so publicly, but for us it is not only a show of courage, but also something that can serve as comfort and support for couples who have had to go through the same situation.
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