Being a mother is an adventure like no other. We go through and live a monumental transformation, which completely changes not only our way of life, but also our body, our mind and our heart. At a stage like that, having a support network is essential.
That is why we have loved the beautiful viral illustration and message that not only celebrate friendship, but also show the importance of the presence of friends when you are a mother .
For some years I have been repeating this phrase: being a mother is easier if you have a tribe. And it is that when we feel accompanied, the positive side is even better and the negative side feels less heavy. Knowing that we have someone to count on totally improves our experience .
Being a mom is not easy or simple. When we begin this new stage of our adult life in which children are present, we are faced with many new challenges, fears and concerns. Therefore, having friends who support and listen to us makes us feel more confident, secure and calm .
Even if it is about friends who do not have children, or who are in a much later stage of life and already have teenage children, friends are a very important pillar and an essential company in each of the different stages of life. life .
And this is precisely what is reflected and captured in the beautiful viral vignette of the Irish illustrator and mother Emma, better known as This mama doodles on Instagram: those moments in which our friends run to our side to help us in those days in which we do not have the energy to even bathe or change, while we try to feed, care for and protect our baby.
‘I will reach you where you are’
Today’s cartoon is inspired by the beauty and resilience of female friendships. It’s in honor of those friends who showed up when you needed them most.
If you become a mother before or long after some or almost all of your friends are, it can feel a bit overwhelming to join in after such a cataclysmic life change. Your friend’s life runs its course and is as stable as the last time you drank a cocktail together, while yours was derailed in an onslaught of diapers and hormones.
I lost contact with a few friends when I became a mother, but as a testament to the fact that I really only allow the best of women close to my heart, my true friends showed up time and time again.
Whether it was sobbing with a breast pump on, bending over backwards to take pictures of a draining cesarean wound, or chasing an Olympic tracker across the living room floor, my beautiful friends sat with me, laughed with me, and appeared for me exactly where I was.
They did not have a magic cure for bad days, nor did they have the answers to my recent mom questions brought on by my anxiety, but they sat with me, listened to me when I cried, rejoiced with me when my baby reached a milestone, and then offered me a much needed escape in the form of stories from their own lives.
I have always admired the strength and endurance of female friends. Too often the media tries to pit women against each other, but the vast majority of us support each other and die for the cathartic liberation that comes with being around the women you love regardless of our life differences.
Thanks to the most beautiful friends who accompanied me in the darkest and brightest moments in recent years.
Emma’s publication has more than 6,000 likes on Instagram, as well as more than 2,000 comments from other mothers who, in addition to tagging and mentioning those unconditional friends, are grateful that the illustrator and mother make visible those moments that only live between them .
Without a doubt, having friends who listen to us and who are there for us , even if they are in another stage of their lives, is one of the things that makes motherhood a better experience.
Illustration | This mama doodles (reproduced with permission)
Via | Motherly
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