The conclusive research on the importance of the first kiss was drawn by John Bohannon, a psychologist at Butler University, in the US Analyzing the memories of a large group of volunteers, he realized that almost all of them could describe in greater detail their first word of mouth that the so mythologized sexual premiere.
This memory was so vividly recorded, according to Bohannon, due to the uncertainty that accompanied the act. The first kiss occurs at a time –adolescence– when we have not yet mastered the codes and the language of seduction.
We have nothing clear, in most cases, that the other person is going to reciprocate us, and the same happens to our partner. In fact, this first intimate contact is usually remembered with surprise: neither person was sure what was going to happen five minutes before.
However, the first time, that sexual relationship that begins our erotic life, usually requires more preparation and, therefore, is less unexpected. And the trace of memory has a lot to do with surprise: we engrave in our memory with more force what dislodged us, which was not part of the normality and fluidity of everyday life.
Helen Fisher, one of the world’s great experts in filematology (the science of kissing), also reminds us that the first kiss is the first contact with another person’s hormones. The hypothesis of this researcher is that it is our way of casting our future partner through knowledge of their biological variables. The first tastes so well because it is the beginning of contact with natural selection.
For Fisher, who is also an anthropologist at Butler University, the experience of the first kiss is more enjoyable and profound because it becomes the key and a kind of initiation ritual to three essential fields of existence: the need for love. and the consequent delivery, the experience of sex and the projection of commitment and union with another person.
