“I sincerely hope that love does not last forever” ; The words of our expert Valérie Tasso, sexologist, who gave a masterful talk about affectivity and romanticism at the Homo Curiosus scientific dissemination event were shocking. “If it lasted forever, that would mean that there has been a manipulation in this event, which suddenly appears and begins to make sense of certain things. It would be a shame not to have any kind of control over ourselves; furthermore, it would be a way to subdue the human being to a force that goes beyond our individual freedom. And I hope that never happens, that we never lose the possibility of choosing and, above all, of making mistakes, “he says.
Valérie reminds us that reason and emotion are not mutually exclusive . The human being is an emotional and rational being at the same time; one thing does not eliminate the other. “This mix seems beautiful to me, because it is what we are. If not, we would be animals, or robots.”
What will relationships be like in the future? Love relationships are a mixture of emotion and reason (that comes and goes). For Valérie, it is too risky to dare to predict what relationships will be like in the future. However, he does point out that more and more we are looking for links through social networks outside of our immediate emotional environment: “This seems crazy to me. I hope we realize it soon so that we can rectify it.”
“Being erotic is not undressing; being erotic is being in relationship with the other. Without the other, I cannot be human.” Fascinating and inspiring words those of Valérie.
About Valérie Tasso
Valérie Tasso was born in France. She has a degree in Applied Foreign Languages and Companies, a PhD in Interculturality from the University of Strasbourg and a postgraduate degree in Sexology from the IN.CI.SEX, from the University of Alcalá de Henares. He participates in television and radio programs and contributes to various magazines.
Lecturer and researcher, passionate about the human sexual act, she also does couples therapy, sex therapy and is a specialist in common sexual dysfunctions. He is a member of the AEPS (State Association of Professionals of Sexology). With Diario de una ninfómana (2003), he reached half a million readers in many countries. Its film version (2008) was distributed in more than forty countries.
Documentary Pleasure and pain: the science of love
Recent scientific studies confirm that love is more than an emotion, it is a force that profoundly transforms our brain and our body. Why do lovers have palpitations? Why are they less hungry and sleep less? Does love come from the brain or from the heart? And why does a love disappointment hurt so much? Scientists around the world want to find out what love is exactly, what happens in our brains when we fall in love and how to make it last a lifetime. This documentary shows us the fascinating science behind love, how we respond to its stimuli beforehand and if, in general, it is good for us.
