Raising and educating is exhausting and requires time and a lot of patience, something that we do not always have enough of. And it is precisely when patience is lacking and physical fatigue begins to take its toll, when conflicts arise with the person next to us. Sometimes these conflicts are verbalized in the form of arguments due to a lack of understanding, but at other times the door is simply opened to laziness, routine and lack of interest.
But we must not forget that our partner is the person with whom we decide to embark on a journey together and build a life project as unique, important and wonderful as starting a family. And precisely because it is such an important and delicate project, it is essential that the couple have unity, understanding and respect.
Connecting emotionally with our partner will have a positive impact on our physical and emotional well-being, and consequently on our happiness. But also, and most importantly, is that the couple connection also affects our children, because children who live in a family nucleus in which peace, love, fluid communication and the union between their parents reign, grow happy, confident and self-assured.
It is true that daily responsibilities, parenting and the whirlwind of day to day can make it difficult to find time to spend exclusively with our partner . But to “connect” with who we have by our side it is not necessary to have a lot of time, and these simple plans that we propose are a good example of this.
Write a diary of your love
We start with a fun and romantic plan that will make you ‘reconnect’ with whoever you are next to by remembering what caught his or her attention when you met him, what made you fall in love and the anecdotal moments you have lived together: write a diary of your love story .
In the market you can find many newspapers of this style, formulated to be written by the two members of the couple. Although you can also create your own love book yourself.
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You can fill in the diary pages in any free time you have a day (for example, before going to sleep). Laughter will be guaranteed when remembering old anecdotes and the most important thing is that you will reconnect with what you fell in love with the other person and that perhaps, with the rush and the whirlwind of day to day, you have stopped appreciating.
Make a scrapbook of photos and scrapbooks
Similar to the previous plan is this one, in which we propose you to make a photo album and clippings of those episodes of your life that you want to remember in a special way . From your last trip together before becoming parents, to that special excursion you did years ago, that concert where you had such a good time, or that fun birthday party.
Any excuse is good to ‘dive’ in the hundreds of photographs that you will surely keep on your computer and that you have not seen again due to lack of time. Print them out, stick them in your album and have a good time together remembering funny anecdotes.
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Take a partner questionnaire
On the Internet there are a multitude of very entertaining tests and questionnaires to do as a couple, which will not only help you to have a good time, but also to get to know each other better. And it is that you may think that, after so many years together, it will be difficult to surprise you with some unknown detail about your partner, but many times you find anecdotes, past experiences or dreams of the future that you had never talked about, and that they will help you to understand and get to know you even better.
Talk about your dreams
Closely related to the plan that we have just proposed would be this other one, which would revolve around talking about your dreams: how do you see yourself in a few years? How would you like your life to be when your children are older and have flown from the nest? What is the trip of your dreams? …
Do not put a stop to your desires and speak openly about your dreams and how you would like your future to be. It is a wonderful exercise that will help you get to know each other better and work together to make those dreams come true one day.
Massage for two
Who does not appreciate being given a good massage? And if in addition, the person who gives it to you is your partner, all the better. You do not need to have any knowledge to surprise your partner with a romantic massage that is sure to captivate him . Find the time of day that best suits you and prepare your stay with piped music and scented candles. There is no better way to ‘connect’ than through touch and caresses.
Turn your bathroom into a spa
Another relaxing and very rewarding plan is to spend time in a spa, even if it is a ‘home spa’ and improvised in the bathroom at home . Fill the bathtub with hot water and aromatic salts, burn an incense stick and cover the floor with candles. Enjoy the bath together and when you get out of the water, spend a few more minutes taking care of your skin, applying creams to each other and pampering each other.
A romantic dinner
Wait until the children have fallen asleep and prepare a delicious dinner to enjoy together in a special way. It is not necessary to spend a lot of time cooking, or want to prepare extraordinary dishes to surprise the other.
It is enough with something simple that you both like (a cheese board, a vegetable tempura, some canapés …) to enjoy with peace of mind, without screens in between and with all the attention placed on your conversation.
Exercising as a couple
You may think that it is difficult to find a space a day to do sports as a couple, but if you change the street and / or the gym for physical exercise at home, the solution is simpler. It is true that if you are very athletic, this idea will attract little attention, but what it is about is to ‘connect’ with your partner through simple and daily plans, and without a doubt this is it.
Be it yoga, Pilates, stretching, cardio exercises … There are countless YouTube channels where you can find this type of training that will not only help you stay in shape, but also create a healthy habit while you spend time together.
Learn from each other
Your partner is passionate / passionate about cooking, but you don’t even know how to turn an omelette? Do you love to play the guitar, but your partner doesn’t even know how many strings this instrument has? Well, the time has come to put on the table what you are experts in and teach each other.
It is never too late to learn something new! and the experience can be tremendously fun . In addition, it will help you to learn more about that hobby of your partner to which you have never paid enough attention, but which means so much to him / her.
Dance together
Dancing has a host of benefits: it helps combat sedentary lifestyle and obesity, keeps bones and heart strong, improves mood, and is a lot of fun. But, think for a moment: how long has it been since you danced together?
The solution is very simple, because you don’t need a big dance floor, disco lights or people around you: you just have to have each other. You can simply let yourself be carried away by the music you like or learn dance steps thanks to the many tutorials that you will find on YouTube. The important thing is to live the moment in a conscious way , looking into each other’s eyes and feeling the other’s arms around your waist or your neck.
Other activities to do together
Are your children entertained playing, reading or have they already gone to sleep? We propose to change the time of the sofa and television for other activities together that promote communication between you, creativity and a greater knowledge of each other.
Some examples : cook a special recipe together, do a puzzle, play a board game, make a common list of Spotify songs to listen to together, make a list of movies you would like to see when you have a spot, go shopping virtually , redecorate a room in your home, plant seasonal flowers …
Take a mindful walk
It is likely that you do not have too much time to walk the two of you, especially in these moments that we are living, in which it is not easy to leave the children in the care of other people to enjoy time as a couple. But sometimes a ten minute conscious walk is enough to ‘reconnect’ with the other and create that atmosphere of rapport that we long for in our daily lives.
Movie at home
And in our review of simple plans, the home theater cannot be missed , although I preferred to leave it for the last place because the time we spend in front of a screen is the time we stop interacting with who we have next to us.
Even so, enjoying a good movie lying on the sofa and with a coffee in hand, is one of the plans that you always want. And whoever says a two-hour movie, says a series with 20-minute episodes; Everything will depend on the free time you can afford with your children.
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