Positive parenting is a way of raising children based on respect, empathy and a loving attitude towards them, as well as consistency and discipline. Calm, understanding and communication are its pillars as opposed to yelling, anger and punishment.
Communication with children is essential to establish a positive relationship of support and trust with them, that is why we compiled 17 positive phrases to say regularly to your children and thus strengthen their self-esteem .
“You can do it”
Good self-esteem is the foundation of our children’s mental health. Let him know that he is capable of doing whatever he sets his mind to.
“I trust you”
Few phrases have as much power for our children’s self-esteem as this one. Knowing that we believe in them will give them confidence for any decision or goal that they propose in life.
“You are the most important to me”
You can assume they know, but it’s important to verbalize it and tell your child or children how much they mean to you.
“I can help?”
Offer your help when they can’t do something for themselves. But beware, it doesn’t mean doing things for them. Autonomy is key to their development. If we give them everything done every day, they will be unable to function on their own when we are not there.
“I understand how you feel”
It is a way of validating your emotions. Although we cannot (and should not) prevent them from feeling emotions such as anger, fear, sadness, it is key to convey empathy and value what they feel.
“I like how you have done it”
We tend to highlight the mistakes of our children, but not so much the successes. Instead of spending all day highlighting what they do wrong, start highlighting what they do right.
“You can try again”
It is necessary to let our children make mistakes and fail. Although it is difficult for us, overprotecting them to prevent them from making mistakes does not help them at all. But when they make a mistake, they will have us there again encouraging them to try again.
“I hear you”
It seems that we are always distracted, and our children take notice. It is important that we take at least a few minutes a day to talk with our children without distractions and practice active listening, putting ourselves at their height and giving them full attention. Shows availability and interest in the other person.
“I understand you”
Understanding the behavior of our children without judging them is essential to establish a relationship of trust with them. It does not imply agreeing with what they do or validating bad behavior.
“I care about you”
They are the most important thing in our lives, but have you let them know? Of course we must prove it to him with our actions day after day, but it is also nice that we tell him.
“Do not rush”
Sometimes parents want them to grow up quickly, but it is important to respect their own rhythms. Let’s not overwhelm them. All learning takes time, it is a long process that progresses little by little. Do not hurry up.
“You are worth a lot”
Each child is a unique and special human being. Mention his qualities, praise his successes without falling into exaggeration and talk about his mistakes with empathy and a spirit of improvement.
“You can always count on me”
When they grow up, it is normal that they begin to trust their things to their friends and do it less with their parents, but maintaining fluid communication with our children is key, especially in adolescence. Let them know that you will always be available for whatever they need, unconditionally .
“I love that you are my son”
They are the most beautiful thing we have, we cannot imagine life without our children as they are, with their strengths and weaknesses. Show him that you feel lucky to be his parent .
“You are right”
We should not hesitate to agree with them when they are right, as well as ask for forgiveness when we have made a mistake.
“I am proud of you”
The pride of parents is the best reward for a child. In one way or another, they always seek our approval.
“I love you”
And of course, to finish the most beautiful positive phrase that we should say it to him at least once a day every day of the year.
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