Becoming a mother has been one of the most transformative experiences of my life. It has helped me to grow, to learn new things and to see the world with different eyes. Step by step, I evolve towards a better version of myself, as a woman and as a mother, and over the years, I have lived many adventures and unique moments in this stage of my life.
Therefore, today that we celebrate Mother’s Day, I would like to dedicate a few words to all those women who are celebrating Mother’s Day for the first time .
For mom, on her first Mother’s Day
“Mom”, a word of only four letters, but that encompasses a whole world in it. Perhaps you have already gotten used to this new role, or perhaps it still seems strange that this new title would come to your life as a new mother.
I remember that once, when my daughter was a few months old, someone asked me: And what does it feel like to be a mother? The word seemed so strange to me, as something that did not quite suit me yet. But that’s how it was, now it was “mom” and that was when I began to realize the weight of that sweet word .
Being a mom is not just about making way for a new life. Being a mom is much more than that. Because when you become a mother, the woman you were before, gives rise to a new, improved and more beautiful version of yourself. You don’t disappear, you just transform.
You will notice that many things in you, in addition to your body, have changed . Your way of thinking and seeing the world is a totally different one. Because now it is not only about you, but about that precious little person who has come to fill your days with laughter and beautiful moments.
You may feel that these first few months are confusing and difficult. And they are, but trust me when I tell you that it won’t be like this forever . When you least expect it, those sleepless nights will become less and as time goes by, your baby will need you less and less.
So one of the first tips I want to give you is this: enjoy every day . Yes, even those days where the nights seem forever and your baby just wants to be close to you, making it almost impossible for you to do many things. Time flies and he will only be small once.
If you feel overwhelmed, tired or need a break: ask for help . You will not be less of a mother nor is it selfish to wish a little time for yourself, especially now that you are in charge of caring for and protecting a small baby 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You also need to take care of yourself and pamper yourself .
During the first days, months and even years, it is quite common to feel lost and doubt yourself, your skills and abilities as a mom. But you are a better mother than you think. Don’t be so hard on you, we were all in that place at some point and we all feel just as lost .
You’ve probably heard of the maternal instinct. Yes, the one that appears almost as if by magic when our children are born (although it comes a little later for some). Trust him. Listen to it and let it guide you. If there is something that you do not like or on the contrary, you believe that what you choose is the best option, trust that inner voice.
Listen to the tips, but don’t be overwhelmed by following them all. Many times, with the intention of helping us, people advise us and it turns out that some advice does not go with others that they told us. Don’t feel obligated to follow them, and focus on finding the best for you and your baby.
If you ever feel fear, doubt or insecurity, remember this: you are the best mom your baby can have . You are extraordinary and I am sure you will do great.
From all the Babies and More team, we send you a lot of love on your first Mother’s Day. Congratulations mom!
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