If a person aspires to have a stable and frequent level of sexual desire, regardless of partner changes, the passage of time, the alterations produced by coexistence, or the state of mind or health, it is that he harbors some unrealistic expectations .
Lack of desire can be understood as the absence or decrease of interest in initiating an erotic encounter , even in the presence of external stimuli that until then were effective. It is usually related, although not always, with the reduction or lack of sexual fantasies: now it no longer excites what used to make us a hundred . Faced with this situation, the first thing to do must be the assumption that it is not compulsory or forced. Everything fluctuates, and it can be as sensible to live a season with a lot of erotic appetite and very varied as others with little or no.
We are talking about something that is affected by many factors. Some have a more physiological origin, such as hormonal disorders, drug use and the effects of some chronic diseases – diabetes, kidney failure. Other causes, on the other hand, are of a more complex and personal nature: lack of appetite can have its roots in relationship problems, previous erotic difficulties, lack of motivation, a drop in mood or a period of work or family difficulties. Lack of desire is a multi-element situation, and more importantly, it plays a key role in how each person experiences them.
Assuming that you can be very happy with low or zero levels , it is also legitimate to want more and try to activate that impulse in an attempt to recover previous levels or, simply, increase the current one.
A common mistake is to force it, but another is to sit idly by. That desire must be cultivated, go for it . You can work on sexual fantasies, enhance the intimacy of the couple and recover lost spaces and times, change habits that seem to no longer work and introduce some change – in other couples it can happen to stop variations and return to the routine. We must also remember that the skin is all over the body, that we have five senses and that sexual relations can be started before being naked and in bed .
The lack of desire should not be an excuse for not loving yourself, abandoning personal care or not feeling desirable. That there is lack of appetite in no case makes the person who has it less of a man or a woman . And in the same way that erotic relationships begin with being dressed, desire is also cultivated by pampering the external appearance, giving yourself a relaxing bath, a pleasant walk, a reading or music, or with any other activity that makes you feel good.
Pull pill
Then there is the resort to drugs to treat erectile dysfunction . Viagra (sildenafil), Cialis (taladalafil) and Levitra (vardenafil) – work in a similar way, inhibiting the action of the enzyme phosphodiesterase 5 (PDE5A). This allows the smooth muscles of the corpora cavernosa of the penis to relax and facilitate the entry of blood into the organ , resulting in an erection. For this process to be triggered, two requirements are necessary: prior desire and adequate stimulation. Therefore, drugs represent a resource that enables sexual response, but does not solve the lack of erotic impulse .
The so-called feminine or pink viagras –Addyi– did try to alleviate the problem by acting on the brain, but their effectiveness seems very limited . If the desire has disappeared for more than one cause, it seems unlikely that it will be reactivated through a single factor. The substances that pharmacological research has yielded are welcome, but they are not a magic bullet.
