When we are willing to start a relationship with another person on a stable basis, we usually examine the pros and cons before taking risks. These aspects are usually focused on his personality traits to know if he would be compatible with us in the long term, in his social level, if he has many or few friends , in what his family is like or in his religious beliefs. And, according to psychologists from five universities, people pay more attention to the negative aspects of the couple, rather than the positive ones.
The study was recently published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , examining the response of 6,500 participants in different contexts: sexual, romantic and friendship . They also took into account the values that stood out the most in each of them.
Taking into account that all the areas related to the heart are quite subjective and depend on each person, the researchers found that the main reasons for breaking coincided: having an unhealthy lifestyle, being unattractive, poorly compatible personality traits, ideologies Opposing religious beliefs, limited social status, and different goals when it comes to relationship.
Therefore, these results showed that, unlike what happened in other times, people today tend to focus more on negative characteristics than on their positive aspects. This may also be because, when they have a problem with their partner, instead of solving it, talking about it and improving communication , they are saving it. The progressive accumulation of problems ends up taking a toll on the relationship, which ends up breaking in some way. This affects especially women, being more emotional and giving more importance to the communication of the couple . Similarly, the study shows that they are the ones who place the greatest emphasis on these negative aspects.
In addition, as the researchers add, people tend to pay more attention to negative information, giving it more importance than to positive things or events.
