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A couple of mothers breastfeed their baby: they tell us how they achieved co-breastfeeding

Shared breastfeeding, in which both mothers breastfeed their baby, is rare.

Same-sex couples often choose to bottle feed their baby, donated breast milk, or formula.

Tiffany and Glenis Decuir, a married couple from Ohio, United States, both set out to breastfeed their son Orion, and they succeeded with induced breastfeeding. They tell us how and why they did it.

“We wanted to share the experience of motherhood”

Last Christmas they found out that Tiffany was pregnant. Glenis says that she wanted to share the experience with her, aware of the strong connection that is established between mother and child during pregnancy and breastfeeding, since she had already given birth and breastfed her oldest children: Savannah, 13 years old , and Nicholas, 10.

“I know how deep this bond is, which starts from the moment you find out you’re pregnant, so I didn’t know how I was going to be able to connect emotionally with our baby.”

This is how Glenis explains how she felt and that it was Tiffany who found information on breastfeeding induction:

“We didn’t know anyone who had done it, so we had no idea it existed. However, once we realized it was possible, we decided to give it a try.”

They researched methods for doing this and chose the Newman Goldfarb protocol. It consists of combining the correct timing of hormones and withdrawing them at the optimal time to trick the body into believing that the woman is pregnant. The earlier the process starts, the more chance of success.

“I began inducing lactation in February 2018 with hormonal contraceptives. Nine weeks before the baby was born, I began to express my milk to stimulate my breasts.”

Not everyone understands

Glenis acknowledges that she had a hard time finding a doctor who would support her desire to induce lactation:

“My doctor looked at me like I was crazy and sent me to my gynecologist, who also refused to prescribe contraceptives to achieve my purpose. So I switched specialists and this time I did not explain what I wanted the pills for.”

Luckily, Happy Mom adds, “We found a lactation consultant who, although she had never tried breastfeeding induction, decided to help us on our way.”

She says she also took domperidone, a drug commonly used to treat stomach ailments that made her put on more than 13 kilos. But he benefited from its effect, the increase in prolactin levels. So she continued to take it even after her baby was born in August.

Two nursing mothers from minute zero

Glenis says they developed a birth plan that included both of them in the process: “We let Orion hook up with Tiffany first, so she could establish breastfeeding, and then I would breastfeed.”

By the time Orion was born, she already had more than 17 liters of breast milk in the freezer, so her priority was for Tiffany to establish breastfeeding.

“Everyone in the delivery room was very understanding and very intrigued, because I had never experienced a similar situation before. After an hour of skin-to-skin with Tiffany and her breastfeeding, I breastfed him. And so on during the next three weeks: every time Orion ate, his two mothers would breastfeed him, Tiffany always first, and then me. After three weeks we were able to alternate feedings without breastfeeding suffering. “

A totally positive experience

Glenis relates that they felt supported by all the close people and that achieving her being able to breastfeed helped her and his wife feel more connected and united to Orion.

“Tiffany has even recognized that if I had not been able to feed our baby, breastfeeding would have been more stressful for her and says that she loves to look at us when I breastfeed because she believes that I have the same right as her, as a mother, to feed him with breastmilk”.

But there is more: thanks to the fact that the two can breastfeed, Tiffany was able to rest and says that in no way does she feel that the induction has hindered or affected her bond with Orion.

“Now we have both returned to work and we both express breast milk so that the little one can drink it when we are not there.”

She acknowledges that after the rejection by the doctors and the lack of information about induction, she decided to open an account on Instagram where she could share her experience with the intention of helping other mothers who want to try it.

In addition, Glenis admits that not everything has been rosy. In fact, she suffered from IGT (Glandular Tissue Insufficiency or Breast Hypoplasia), a condition that causes the woman to be unable to produce enough milk for her child, as there is not enough breast tissue to contain it.

“So looking back now, a year ago, when I didn’t even know induction was possible, I’m amazed at how far we’ve come and what we’ve accomplished as a family.”

In any case, this is only a testimony, which can be positive to show that breastfeeding induction is possible, but we do not agree that it is carried out without the necessary medical support. No medication should ever be taken without being prescribed by a specialist, due to the medical dangers involved.

In fact, the sale of Domperidone is not approved in the US by the FDA (United States Food and Drug Administration), because of the risks it poses to the health of the nursing mother. And here in Spain its indications are also restricted.

Photos | Provided by Glenis Decuir

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