The first sexual relationship that we have in our life offers us a range of discoveries related to sex that will serve us for future relationships that we have. But, does the way we remember our first time – positive or negative – influence our subsequent sexual relationships?
According to a study developed by the Department of Psychology at the Dunedin School of Medicine, at the University of Otago (New Zealand) this is the case. Having an emotionally negative experience the first time we have sex with someone can cause dysfunctions in this area .
Having a negative sexual experience on our first time is directly related to our expectations. Raising them excessively can have consequences that affect our sexual response and therefore, our satisfaction in sex. The insecurity, frustrations, fears or anxiety generated by this first bad experience (“I have not measured up”, “I expected something more”, “I have not managed to make my partner reach orgasm”, “I have felt pain”. ..) can harm both orgasm, sexual desire or even simple arousal.
Seeing the sexual relationship experienced as something disappointing can end up generating sexual dysfunctions known as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction (in men), vaginismus or anorgasmia (in women).
Does the age at which we have our first sexual relationship influence this conditioning? According to the study, this is not a determining factor, but the context and the place (for example, a place lacking intimacy) in which that sexual encounter takes place is.
The study has been published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine .
