The way in which we communicate with our children from birth, and even from when they are inside the womb, leaves a mark on their personality, much more than we think.
Mom and dad are the baby’s reference person, especially mom (the influence of mother tongue is very strong). Their whole world passes through you, they absorb like sponges what we teach and say to them, and as they grow they transmit what they have received, so if you are empathetic with your children, they will be empathic with others .
Example teaches
Children do what they see. If you swear, they will say it, if you throw papers in the street, they will throw them away, if you treat others badly, they will too. In the same way, you speak appropriately, you are a good citizen and you treat others with respect, they will do the same.
Respect for children is fundamental, not only because they deserve all our respect and attention, like any other person, but because through our relationship with them, we are also teaching them to be respectful towards others .
We are shaping your brain
Children’s brains are completely moldable during the early years and feed off the experiences it receives from their environment. The hugs and caresses we give (and those we don’t give), the way we address them and even the words we use generate neural connections that trace their brain map.
As parents, we want that brain map to be as rich as possible and emotions have a lot, a lot to do at this point.
If we are able to communicate with our children through emotions , even if they are barely months old, we will be able to better empathize with them, and in turn, they will do so with others. It is an ant job that we must do every day with them and that will have an impact on a lifelong teaching.
Mothers help their children to be empathetic
According to a recent study by the University of York, especially the language of mothers towards their children has a great influence on their future social skills.
The way in which mothers addressed their babies while playing was recorded when they were 10, 12, 16 and 20 months old and were observed again later, when they were 5 or 6 years old.
The results showed a strong and positive correlation between the mothers’ mind-related comments when they were young and the children’s scores for understanding foreign thoughts at 5 and 6 years of age. In other words, the mother’s empathy is transferred to the son .
Communication with your children
Research like the latter shows the importance of communicating with children, from the time they are babies, in a positive way . The caresses, the kisses, being in arms, the physical contact, as well as the words we use and the way we address them, marks their personality .
But as children grow up, get angry, respond, and show us their personalities, how we interact with them is also important.
Understanding their tantrums, accompanying them in their emotional processes, avoiding expressions such as “you’re bad”, “you’re capricious” and ultimately, communicating with them through empathy will help our children grow up happier and become empathetic people. with other people .
Via | Neuroscience News
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