As parents we always do our best to give the best to our children. We know that their training in the first years of life depends on us, so we try to educate them to be good people with a good heart. It is certainly not an easy job, but we do it with a lot of love.
However, sometimes there are situations that we feel are overwhelming us and we can lose patience, acting in a way that we immediately regret. Sure, we all know that practicing patience can sometimes be tricky, so that’s why the trick a mom shares to develop it has been enthusiastically received by many mothers .
There are days when we feel overwhelmed and when problems outside our family end up affecting us. Sometimes the one who gets an undeserved scowl or a yell because we’re angry or tired is our kids. But this mother’s trick could help many of us exercise patience and positive parenting.
Angel Camden is a mother from Virginia, United States, who, like other moms of young children, sometimes loses patience when her 4-year-old son does not seem to listen or do what is asked of him. So when she found a trick that helps her practice patience and be more aware of her actions, she decided to share it on her Facebook account.
Today I tried something new.
Something that required me to exercise patience with my irritable four-year-old. I have put 5 scrunchies (hair ties) on my wrist since I woke up, until now, right after I put him to sleep. These 5 scrunchies represent every time you lose your cool or say something unkind to your child. Every time it happens, you have to move a scrunchie to your other doll. To “get back” the scrunchie, you must do 5 kind or positive things with your child (dance, sing a song together, read together, etc). I read that science says that for every negative reaction, it takes FIVE positive reactions to regain a positive relationship. I’m going to use this method until it becomes a habit and basically becomes a ritual that I do automatically. I have found myself very stressed, banging my head against the wall every day because I do not understand why my four year old son insists on being disrespectful and ignoring me when I speak to him. I’ve gotten to the point of crying at least every other day. Today I finished my day with the 5 scrunchies on my wrist where they were at the beginning. I am very proud of myself for practicing patience with him. I know it is only day one but I am hopeful that this will help improve our communication and our relationship. If you find yourself being an “angry mom”, give this a try!
The publication where he shares this trick has been shared more than 46,000 times and many mothers have left comments thanking him for sharing this trick that they will put to the test.
As the mother of a little girl of almost 3 years, I know that these first years are usually somewhat heavy because our children are just understanding how to live with other people, learning values and trying to understand the difference between what is right and what is wrong.
I think this is a good trick (and also easy) to keep in mind those moments in which we feel that we lose our reason and we can work on being better parents to our children .
What do you do to exercise patience with your children?
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