We all know the benefits of breast milk, and there are many mothers who decide, from the first moment, to breastfeed our babies. There are also women who prepare during pregnancy by reading articles and books on breastfeeding.
But until you have your baby in your arms and breastfeeding begins, you do not know what it really means. At that point, theory gives way to practice and the experience may not be what you expected.
And this is what has happened to Verdeliss with her last two lactations : that of her twin daughters and that of her premature baby. But far from hiding the difficulties she has gone through, the well-known YouTuber wanted to share them with all her followers, in order to encourage other mothers who are in the same situation.
“Sometimes I think about how many towels have been thrown away due to lack of tribe”
The well-known youtuber and mother of seven children, Verdeliss, published yesterday on her Instagram account a reflection on breastfeeding that has moved us, due to the sincerity of her words and what she transmits. The text is accompanied by a photograph of her breastfeeding her last daughter, born prematurely at 31 weeks of gestation.
See this post on InstagramBreastfeeding. 🤱🏼 You get sick of listening: it doesn’t have to hurt … but oh when it hurts! Sometimes I think how many towels have been thrown away due to lack of tribe, of sharing experiences, from mother to mother. We all know the technique, the benefits of breast milk and they overwhelm us with scientific evidence (with good reason🤲🏻) But also presenting the difficulties, far from diminishing, prepares and strengthens. Women, my beginnings with my two lactations were not as expected: between pain, tears, cracks, blisters, obstructions, mastitis, insomnia and guilt … a lot of guilt! With the twins I rebelled thinking that it was not what they had told me, but the intervention of Carmen, my friend Doula and lactation consultant was stronger (and my stubbornness hehe). With Miren, I consoled myself: calm, it’s normal, calm will come, a pleasant breastfeeding will come. Believe me … if it is a desired breastfeeding (and if there is no pathology that prevents it) one day you find yourself watching your baby suckle, in a sweet, magical and mammalian fusion. And those torturous two months until breastfeeding began make sense. And you fall in love with those moments. It is necessary to make the shadows visible, to reach the lights❤️ If you are now in that vulnerable period where feeling something that is not similar to sticking thousands of pins in your nipple every time your baby hooks it turns out to seem like a “scam”, calm down .. Pleasant breastfeeding will come and it is wonderful. Courage puerpara (then come the crisis of growth, rejection or maternal agitation for a change … but that is water from another bag 😅) let yourself support, believe in yourself and your baby #Verdeliss #Motherna Lactation
“Breastfeeding. You get tired of listening: it doesn’t have to hurt … but, oh when it hurts! Sometimes I think how many towels have been thrown away due to lack of tribe, of sharing experiences from mother to mother. We all know the technique, the benefits of breast milk and overwhelm us with scientific evidence (with reason). But also presenting the difficulties, far from diminishing, prepares and strengthens .
“With the twins I rebelled thinking that it was not what they had told me , but the intervention of Carmen, my friend Doula and lactation consultant was stronger (and my stubbornness hehe). With Miren, I consoled myself: calm, it is normal, calm will come, a pleasant lactation will come “.
“Believe me, if it is a desired breastfeeding (and if there is no pathology that prevents it) one day you find yourself watching your baby suckle, in a sweet, magical and mammalian fusion . And those two tortuous months until breastfeeding was established charge sense. And you fall in love with those moments. It is necessary to make the shadows visible, to reach the lights “
“If you are now in that vulnerable period where feeling something that is not similar to sticking thousands of pins in your nipple every time your baby latches on turns out to seem like a” scam “, calm down … pleasant breastfeeding will come and it is wonderful . puerpara (then come the crisis of growth, rejection or maternal agitation for a change … but that is water from another bag) let yourself support, believe in yourself and your baby “
The lights and shadows of breastfeeding
Like any other aspect of parenting, breastfeeding is also a personal experience , which can be very different from one mother to another: for some women, it is a good and successful experience from the first moment, while for others it is a path full of difficulties.
Although it is true that when successful breastfeeding is achieved it becomes one of the most incredible and loving experiences in a mother’s life , there is also a dark side that some women go through, and that is far removed from breastfeeding. dream that they have sold us.
That is why it is important to make visible the shadows of breastfeeding, so that mothers who are going through it do not feel alone, guilty, or suffer in silence. Sharing experiences can not only be of great help to the mother who is having difficulties, but also become the lifesaver she was waiting for.
The importance of the tribe
Support must start from the delivery room, where doctors, nurses and midwives properly informed in breastfeeding reach out to the new mother, knowing how to communicate and help from the empathy that is required in these delicate and first moments between mother and baby.
Once the mother and baby are discharged, the support of the couple and a tribe of mothers that listens, understands and does not judge you is more essential than ever. And it is that being able to speak openly or fearfully, and receive advice from other moms based on experience, is undoubtedly a great help.
And if you are having difficulties with your breastfeeding , it is recommended that you go to a breastfeeding support group, where counselors or IBCLC will help you overcome obstacles and clarify all your doubts.
