Kisses , like hugs, are essential in children’s emotional development and should never be lacking in their lives. Through kisses, parents not only show affection to our children, but also presence, protection, comfort, connection … in short, it is the most universal and powerful way that exists to express all our love to them.
When they are babies, parents do not hesitate to cuddle, hug and “eat kisses” our children. However, as children grow older, we tend to physically distance ourselves from each other , swallowed up by the rush, the stress of everyday life, and the laziness of routine.
But as parents it is extremely important to dedicate to our children a time of daily connection where hugs and kisses are not lacking, especially those that we give each other before going to sleep .
The power of kisses
Giving a kiss to our children or our partner is such a simple and daily gesture that we often forget the great significance it has . Moreover, on many occasions we give kisses in a hasty way, in a hurry and without really being aware of this affective and voluntary act that we are carrying out.
But in addition to showing affection, for children the kisses of mom and dad have great powers .
To begin with, they have healing powers and are the best of consolations, since they are able to appease the cry produced by the pain of a fall. They are also the necessary lifeline when things are not going well, when there is uncertainty, sadness or frustration. Kisses provide protection, shelter and calm, but also motivation and confidence.
And it is that through kisses, parents show presence and connection , we strengthen the bond with our children and we remind them that we are always by their side.
The power of kisses, like that of hugs, has even been proven by science. Therefore, these displays of affection and human contact should never be lacking in our lives , no matter how much our children get older and we have the wrong feeling that they no longer need us as much as before.
Why you shouldn’t end the day without kissing your kids
However, as we mentioned at the beginning, it is very common for adults to be engulfed by the daily routine, stress, rush and responsibilities.
This causes us to go to bed exhausted on more than one occasion, with our heads about to explode and the feeling of guilt for not having spent enough time with our children.
But we already know that taking the whip of guilt is not going to solve things, so we must start by making small changes in our daily routines that involve a greater connection with our children, in order to avoid the dreaded distancing as they grow older. .
In this sense, one of the best ways to connect with them after an exhausting day is by kissing them good night; a kiss that we must give with all our senses and our hearts, being fully aware of that moment of connection so intimate and pure that we are having.
For the child, falling asleep with the memory of the kiss, the caress on the face and the “I love you” from mom and dad is extremely beneficial, because among many other things it helps to strengthen their self-esteem and confidence, and to feel loved and important. In addition, the pleasant and well-being sensation provided by kisses and displays of affection will help you fall asleep and promote your proper rest.
For parents, the moment of kissing our children good night lived from calm, involvement and awareness, also brings us many positive things.
And it is that this simple gesture of love and deep connection will help us regain calm after the hard day we have lived, in addition to soaking up the great and pure love that our children have for us.
In short, there is no better way for children and parents than to say goodbye to the day with a kiss and go to sleep with a heart full of love after spending a quality time together on the edge of the bed.
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