When we know that a baby is on the way, we do everything possible to prepare ourselves for the great adventure that we are about to begin . We start reading parenting books and blogs, and we prepare by buying all the things that we may need.
But those of us who already have some years of experience in life with children, we know that there are things that can only be learned with practice (and that nobody tells you and you discover until it happens to you).
A father has decided to share, in a funny way and full of many truths, a thread with 10 things that he has learned during the first 160 days of his baby .
Through his Twitter account, Bonisile Mgidi has made thousands of people laugh with the funny anecdotes of his fatherly life, which although perhaps still short, has undoubtedly taught him many things that he did not know before.
So in an effort to help other moms and dads, and at the same time laugh at the things we live as parents , he has shared a thread where he gathers 10 things (and a bonus) that he has learned after spending 160 days with his baby.
10 Things I learnt in my 160 days as Mihla’s father [Thread] pic.twitter.com/AhuLhSgslP
— Mihla’s Dad (@Bonisile_RMS) January 25, 2021
He begins his thread directly with a topic that is gross, but also very familiar to all of us who have had a baby, poop:
” 1. Raising a baby has everything to do with poop. What color is it? When was the last time you pooped? Did you have a hard time pooping? Do we have enough diapers for the next 10 poops? Let me have one. photo of this poop to show the doctor. Now your gallery is full of poop. “
He also advises not to worry so much about having a lot of clothes for babies, as they grow so fast that they will actually wear them very rarely (and some will not even use them):
” 2. There will be outfits that they will only wear once before leaving them behind. This hurts. Try not to buy expensive clothes. “
Regarding the relationship with the children, he comments that if on any occasion we feel frustrated or annoyed with them, it is most likely that they have not yet solved it with their adorable faces:
” 3. You’re not frustrated, they just haven’t smiled at you. No matter how frustrated you are with the babies, they’ll calm you down with a smile. Those little manipulators. “
Every experienced father or mother knows that a change of clothes for the baby should always be carried in the diaper bag , as they are prone to staining for different reasons, but it does not hurt to also carry one for us:
“4. A backup outfit for the baby is ideal, but a backup outfit for you is even more important. They will vomit and laugh at you. Yes, black is the color of poop, but vomit stains show worse on him. “
In medical emergencies, we must always have the emergency contact number at our fingertips, but in addition to this, it is also ideal to have the pharmacies that we may need located in these situations:
” 5. You need to have a database of pharmacies that are open 24 hours a day. Try hospital pharmacies. Either they close late or they open 24 hours. After a while they will know you by name. “
Her sixth tip is exactly what we mentioned at the beginning: ” 6. Read a lot about parenting. Have a book or online resource that you can use. “
Also, mention the importance of having tools that can support us in certain difficult moments, such as the advantage of having a playlist prepared for when it is necessary to calm the baby:
” 7. Have a playlist. I’ve compiled a playlist that I use to take her apart when she’s angry or upset. I’ve also tested it on my friends’ babies. Babies love these songs. “
His next point, more than advice, is a kind of revelation or truth when we have children: we love that they prefer us.
” 8. You might think you are a good person, but in fact you are a sadistic being, who will find joy in your baby rejecting other people and loving you .”
One of the most sincere and realistic pieces of advice is the ninth, which mentions one of the biggest concerns we have as parents: that our son may get hurt, especially at a stage where his innocence is king.
” 9. These things are always trying to die. Your job is to stop them. They will want to roll out of bed, bite the tip of their laptop charger, swallow the coin that just fell out of their pocket. “
Also, it talks about the importance of asking for help if possible, or trying to adapt our routines to the new life of parents:
” 10. Your routine changes completely. If help is available, use it. If you can afford a babysitter, have one. If you work, take your usual deadlines and add a day or two. If you have understanding clients like mine, you could take the small to some meetings. “
And finally, something that surely many current parents have experienced when we go crazy taking hundreds of photos of everything our baby does:
” BONUS LESSON: Your phone doesn’t have enough space for all the photos it will take. Not even your 128GB phone. “
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