The real meaning of this term is often unknown and confused with that of ‘ anorgasmia ‘ (inability of a woman to reach orgasm). However, in alorgasmia, the protagonist is undoubtedly the imagination. It is a sexual fantasy that manifests itself in those who, when maintaining relationships with their partner, think of other people as they find it exciting to do so.
That someone whose image symbolically breaks into the sexual act to enrich it can be an artist, a famous athlete, a co-worker, the neighbor across the street, a stranger or the ex-partner herself. But, to what extent can this be perceived as something negative within the relationship?
Contrary to the most widespread thought, which maintains that fantasizing with third parties can be detrimental to a romantic relationship and even considered infidelity, some scientific studies have recently confirmed that it is one of the increasingly accepted philias by couples, producing a greater closeness and complicity between the two. Just because from time to time you project your desire onto someone you are attracted to does not mean that you do not love your partner.
Fantasies of this type are nothing more than mental processes that, at the time of sex, help to get in tune, and are great revealing of our most intimate desires. According to experts, they can serve as an alternative to break the routine and monotony that is generated in many couples.
However, if the allorgasmia recurs too often, what started out as harmless play can turn into a serious problem that causes partners to distance themselves and become suspicious.
