The moment we become pregnant for the second time , many doubts begin to arise about the new pregnancy, when will be the best time to tell our child, how the arrival of a new baby will affect the family, or even how it will be the relationship that the siblings will have.
It is inevitable not to feel doubts and uncertainty about what lies ahead, and although no two motherhoods are the same, we will tell you nine things that you will surely experience after the birth of your second child .
you will fall in love again
It is likely that at some point you will come to think that you will not be able to love your second child in the same way that you love your firstborn. And it is that the love that we discover after becoming mothers is so immense, so overwhelming and so extremely special, that it is impossible to believe that you will be able to feel it again .
But when your baby is born you will realize that a mother’s heart is wonderful, because not only does it have room for all her children, but the love she is capable of giving will multiply to unsuspected limits.
Guilt
Guilt and motherhood are two sides of the same coin . And there is no mother who has not experienced this unpleasant sensation at some time.
However, with the arrival of the second pregnancy, guilt begins to acquire even more relevance, if possible, and is even capable of torturing us as if it were a “Jimino Cricket”.
Greater safety and ease
The saying that “experience is a degree” takes on special meaning during the second motherhood . While your first few days with your baby may feel just as clumsy and rookie as you did with your first child, you’ll quickly realize that holding your newborn, bathing or changing diapers is like riding a bike. Never forgets.
You will also feel safer and more confident in each new stage that your baby is conquering , and you will know what to do without despair in the face of each “itis” that visits you, each tantrum that arises or each small pothole that arises.
No two children are the same (even if they are brothers)
I once heard someone say that with each new child that is born, a new way of experiencing motherhood is also born . And it is that the fact of feeling more “loose” in the day to day with your second baby does not mean that everything that you live together is going to be an exact replica of what you lived with your firstborn.
Each of your children will have their own quirks , personality, needs, and unique development. This means that it is very likely that you will discover aspects in your second motherhood that you never experienced with the first.
new fears
I’ll tell you something ahead of time: with the arrival of your second child you will realize that many of the fears and concerns you felt with the first will have disappeared.
And it is that, as we said above, the experience adds up, so that irrational fear of stopping breathing or getting a bump when you start walking disappear with the second.
But not everything is rosy, and on the other hand, new fears will arise that have never been raised before, and that revolve mainly around the way of raising your children and the relationship between siblings.
You will melt with love when you see them together
When your second baby is born, one of the most exciting things you will experience is the first meeting between your children. And it is that the first time they meet, that their eyes meet and that the eldest holds the baby in his arms will be engraved on fire in your heart, making it “burst with love”.
Of course there will be fights and discussions between siblings (it is normal and healthy for their development) and also difficult days, but what will prevail will be the unconditional love they will feel for each other , the need to protect and care for each other, as well as look for each other to play and share time together.
You will be excited again with their first times
Did you shed a tear when your baby said “mama” for the first time? Did you cry like nobody else on their first day of school? Did you get excited when he blew out his first birthday candle? Do you treasure in your memory and in your heart the first kiss he gave you, his first steps or the first night he slept alone in his bed?
Well, you will live these same sensations again with your second baby , and again you will surprise yourself crying excitedly for each of his “first times”.
You will continuously relive your first maternity
In line with the above, although a mother never forgets the moments, experiences or anecdotes carried out by her children , when these situations are repeated with the second, the memory of the first time becomes more “alive” and “clear” than ever. , and consequently the emotion we feel is multiplied.
Thus, when you see your second baby stand up for the first time, you will be excited and applaud while your memory looks back remembering how you lived that same moment with your firstborn.
It is then that you will begin to become aware of how quickly time passes and how much they grow before our eyes without even realizing it.
The days do not spread as before
After the birth of your second child, it is likely that at some point you will wonder what has happened over time and how it is possible that the days go by so quickly .
And it is that, if after becoming a mother for the first time we live complicated days, in which it is difficult to reconcile and/or cover everything that we had planned, as the number of children increases, the sensation also appears that time decreases in the same proportion .
This can make you feel overwhelmed or stressed at some point. To avoid this, record these three tips in your mind: relativize, lower expectations and let go of guilt.
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