When we evoke Eros, god of passion and love, we do not always share him with a sexual partner. Autoeroticism, or simply masturbation, has been shown to have extensive health benefits. Without going into detailed scientific explanations, giving yourself sexual pleasure releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter that activates the brain’s ‘pleasure center’; and endorphins, which decrease pain.
While everyone is free and knows the most effective way to explore their genitalia and other erogenous zones, there are human wits for all tastes, designed to adapt to the anatomy of both sexes. The market for sex toys makes it possible to amplify the pleasure of masturbation. But, among so much variety, how to choose the most appropriate one? We have turned to Valérie Tasso, writer, sexologist, LELO brand Ambassador for Spain and a regular contributor to Muy Interesante.
“There are several factors that can help us determine which gadget may be an optimal choice, but among all of them I would highlight two: the level of development and knowledge , as well as the degree of maturity of the person concerned; and the specific desire that said person may feel at a certain moment, ”says Valérie. “Naturally, a young girl who begins the exploration of the dynamic process of her sexuality is not the same as that of a woman who already knows her sexual response well and knows how to manage it.”
The clitoris as the center of the ‘orgasmic platform’
When thinking about sex toys for women, a device in the form of an artificial penis often comes to mind. Penetration continues to play a leading role in the imaginary of female masturbation, despite the fact that the clitoris is the only organ designed exclusively for pleasure , and that it is, in fact, the center of women’s sexual enjoyment. In this sense, according to the sexologist, “it is unwise to recommend to a young woman seeking her first orgasm or a certain regularity for the first time, toys of an ‘intrusive’ nature (those that can simulate vaginal or anal intercourse or stimulators of the ‘G-spot’ ) for this purpose, since what should be explored is their sexual and anatomical response from the so-called ‘orgasmic platform’ (the clitoris, mainly and the vulva in general) ”.
“In the same way, it is not the same when making a recommendation if there is an initial sexual difficulty, such as anorgasmia or vaginismus, or if there is none,” continues Valérie.
The hegemony of the clitoral ‘suckers’
Fortunately, the consciousness of the clitoris as a center of pleasure is taking the role that was taken away from it for centuries, through intercourse for the ideal of the locus genitalis (only sex for reproductive purposes). In recent years, the focus of female sex toys has shifted from the ‘dildo’ to illuminate clitoral stimulators, popularly known as ‘suckers’. Valérie, however, reminds us that not all so-called clitoral ‘suckers’ suck or suck; some, like SONA 2 CRUISE by LELO, stimulate it by sonic waves. In other words, the object emits sonic waves, there is no contact between the object and the clitoris, which has a wonderful advantage; they do not irritate him. In addition, they stimulate 75% of the clitoris (not only the visible part, but the internal part as well). These waves are absolutely harmless. In fact, they have always been used in imaging medicine (ultrasound scans in pregnant women, etc.).
The myths of male masturbation
Are men more complex when it comes to using sex toys? Valérie thinks so: “Possibly it is because they continue to consider masturbation more as a remedy, a fix , a substitute for something that has not been possible, thus putting one of the pillars of virility in question.”
“Also because for them it is much simpler and direct from the earliest ages to procure an orgasm, with which their investigation through this autonomous erotic (toys) becomes or they consider it less necessary”, he adds.
However, and although in the social imaginary it seems that the climax of men is something mechanical and simple, there are many myths that feed this false belief. Human sexuality is very rich and complex, which includes men, who also have many devices on the market to maximize their pleasure, such as masturbating cups. Men insert their penis into them, which are activated to provide different sensations (heat, pressure, humidity, vibration …)
Finally, and to make our work easier for some women, we asked Valérie about her favorite sex toy: “Without a doubt, SONA 2 CRUISE by LELO, a technological prodigy that I mentioned above. Not only for its effectiveness, but also for its aesthetic beauty (its one-piece design with an ultra-soft medical silicone makes it not only an object of pleasure but also an object of desire). Many mistakenly call it a ‘clitoral sucker’ but we have already seen that it does not suck. I will add, to conclude, that SONA 2 CRUISE is also wonderful as a therapeutic object for women suffering from anorgasmia . For this reason, I usually recommend it a lot in consultation ”, concludes the expert.
