Women are often affected by mainly emotional factors such as stress, recurring worry, overwork, lack of communication with the partner or combining work and family life. For their part, men are often affected by anxiety and by their thoughts , such as wanting to satisfy the other person or being able to “measure up.” All these variables prevent the couple from relaxing and enjoying their sexual relationship with total freedom, without being aware of the clock, the place or external concerns.
Although, we must know that in addition to the triggers being different, the mechanisms that make it difficult to reach climax are also different.
In a recent study published in the journal Clinical Anatomy , researchers analyzed a series of previous research related to sexual anatomy and the ability to reach orgasm. His attention was focused on a number of factors such as the size of the penis, the stimulation of the ” G-spot “, or the benefits of orgasm.
The results found that in men the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems play a major role in reaching orgasm. While in women the clitoris is still considered the main structure to reach it, including its extension that is within the anterior wall of the vagina (the famous G-spot).
Therefore, men will need to perform a medical examination to determine what is the cause that is influencing this response. If the functional cause is ruled out, we will be facing a dysfunction, probably psychological. For their part, women can solve reaching orgasm by practicing a sexual position that manages to stimulate the clitoris or the front wall of the vagina, as she usually is on top, or the ” missionary ” position.
However, if we want to enrich our sexual life we must be more aware of our bodies, knowing that a sexual relationship involves the entire skin and the entire body, not just the genitals . In this way we will be able to enjoy full sexual relations. As Dr. Leslie Hoffman of the Indiana Medical University Department of Anatomy mentions, ” orgasms are a complex phenomenon that involves both psychological, physiological and anatomical aspects .”
Raquel Graña is a psychologist, sexologist and educational coach
