Despite the fact that there are still people who think that arms are spoiling, in general, parents know that our arms are the best shelter for our children, and while they are babies we do not hesitate to hug them, hug them and kiss them without condition.
But our arms are such a magical, healing and comforting place for our children that they should always remain open , regardless of their age.
For this reason, I always tell my children: “someday you will take off and take flight of your own, but remember that you will always find shelter in my arms”.
Arms never spoil, quite the opposite
When babies are tiny, they are not yet able to tell us what they feel or need. In those early months and years, crying is her main way of communicating everything from her physical to her emotional needs.
However, there is something that they make clear to us from the day they arrive in the world: the arms are one of the most calming, comforting and safe places that can exist for them . Specifically, the arms of mom and dad.
What for us can be a simple gesture of affection, for them it is literally the whole world. In our arms, a baby feels protected, well cared for and above all, loved . The arms give him warmth, affection and calm, becoming a basic need to grow up happy.
As our children grow , the benefits that our arms bring to them are consolidated more and more. To begin with, hugs reinforce their self-esteem, security and confidence, and become their best refuge when something worries or worries them.
Our arms teach our children that regardless of the behavior they may have at a given moment, the important thing for us is to attend to their emotional needs in a respectful and loving way, being aware that only with love is it possible to correct and educate.
Arrived at adolescence, the arms of dad and mom continue to be for our children the only accurate place in their changing world and overflowing with emotions. They are that den to go to in search of calm, peace and light, and that place that connects them with their childhood “I”.
Because a child who develops under the shelter of his parents’ arms will end up becoming an autonomous, secure and independent person; able to take off his wings with confidence and courage when his time comes.
For this reason, I would like to give you some advice, from mother to mother: do not stop hugging and sheltering your children, even if they are no longer babies, and allow them to “get used to” your arms so that they grow up happy, safe and with the certainty to be able to come back to you whenever they need it.
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