Have you ever thought about what image your children have of you? Do you know how they see you and what goes through their heads when they think of their parents? Well, a mother who works doing workshops with young children has written a thread about the things they tell them about it. Start by saying… ” If you knew with the eyes (and the heart) with which your little ones talk about how good mothers and fathers you are… All the things you say around here about how badly you do it, they would disappear … “. I confess that I have saved it to reread it every time that feeling of guilt, sometimes so frequent, knocks on the door.
If you knew with the eyes (and the heart) with which your little ones speak about how good mothers and fathers you are… All the things you say around here about how badly you do it, they would disappear.
In the Child Sexual Abuse prevention workshops, I ask two questions:
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1 Who do you think loves you the most in the world?
2 How do you know he loves you?In 1, especially in children, mom, dad and the abusers appear (in that order) SURE.
And the 2 arrives, and wonderful things appear that you do EVERY DAY but you do not think the value +
– Geek Mom (@MellamanSiL) March 15, 2022
What do you have for your little ones? Things like:
– Give me kisses and hugs EVERY DAY.
– Take care of me if I’m sick.
– Make my favorite food.
– Calm down if I get angry.
– Tickling my back.
– Take me to the park or to places that I like and they don’t.
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– Clean my clothes and help me if I get dirty.
– teach me things.
– Spend time with me even if you are tired.
– Say nice things to me.
– Hold me.
– Do things with me.
– Ask me for help to do things together.
– Sleep with me if I have nightmares.
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And laugh together.
– Smile when I’m doing things and he looks at me (a girl told me this and I was dying of cuteness)
– Worry about me.
– Protect me.
– He looks at me when I’m playing in the park so I don’t walk away.
– She worries so that I don’t eat many sweets and it hurts +– Geek Mom (@MellamanSiL) March 15, 2022
Belly.
– Play with me.
– Sing songs.
– He tells me stories.
– He combs my hair carefully so as not to hurt me.
– He takes the sand out of my shoes when we leave the park (how do you feel?)And many others.
So, YES, YOU DO IT GREAT. And don’t forget, because your little one doesn’t.
– Geek Mom (@MellamanSiL) March 15, 2022
I am sure that many of us overlook that children realize everything, but mainly the good things … the love that their parents lavish on them and the care they receive every day. Deep and selfless love speaks for itself, and that is precisely the feeling that unites us as parents and children.
Guilt, that feeling that sometimes does not let us enjoy parenting
And it is that there are so many factors against freeing ourselves from the feeling of guilt for not doing it “well enough”… because we don’t have time, because we are very tired and we read the story as we can, because some night dinner is not everything healthy as it should be, because the house is turned upside down, because we forgot to buy the materials for tomorrow’s costume … the list is endless and many more reasons could appear every day.
However, we do not usually keep in mind that the most important thing is always there and they see it with their innocent eyes. We should also reflect that what stays in their minds are the acts and not the material things : they don’t talk about the dolls we bought them, or the video game console, or a closet full of clothes. It is the time we share, the experiences and the acts of love that are recorded forever.
Each sentence in this thread sums up perfectly that everything we do with and for them is special… sometimes we believe that actions as normal as removing the sand from their shoes when leaving the park is something they don’t see. But yes, they do, so let’s not forget that the sum of all those little things make us special in their eyes , and that there is no love more pure, tender and sincere than the one your children have for you when they are little.
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