Although it is frequently associated with gay male partners, anyone can perform anal sex, a sexual practice that can be very satisfying for both men and women. With or without sex toys, alone or accompanied, anal stimulation opens up a world of very pleasant possibilities; yes, if done correctly and safely. Do you want to learn how to introduce anal sex into your sexual routine, and you don’t know where to start? Do you have doubts about this practice, which is still accompanied by a certain stigma? We offer you some tips to enjoy anal sex guided by an expert, and from the hand of JOY Club, a community with more than 3 million members aimed at all those who want to enjoy open sexuality.
1. Get informed
It is important to obtain rigorous information to leave taboos behind and to be able to enjoy this sexual practice. According to the sexologist and therapist Carlos Horrillo, one of the most frequent concerns about this practice comes from heterosexual men who, despite having a great interest in wanting to explore this area in their sexual partners, tend to refuse to self- explore themselves due to fears , fruits of ignorance. “The reason is cultural, since there is a psychological component to ‘being penetrated’,” says the sexologist.
But any man can really enjoy anal and prostate stimulation, and that has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Enjoying anal sex does not make you a homosexual, nor does it jeopardize your virility. On the contrary, it does open up an unexplored path of pleasant possibilities, especially for them: stimulation of the prostate, located a few inches from the entrance to the rectum, has the potential to be very pleasant for a man . In addition to being very healthy, not only for the benefits of having sex in themselves, rectal examination in men can be key to preventing prostate diseases.
On the other hand, the anus is an erogenous zone in both sexes, so women can also enjoy very pleasant anal sex. Horrillo points out that women often see this practice as “something dirty and not very erotic for them.” However, this conception is changing. The sexologist points out that around 30% of heterosexual women already practice anal sex regularly. Of course, it is better to do it with a series of guidelines.
2. Spend time with the preliminaries
The first fact to take into account, especially in heterosexual couples, is that the practice of anal sex cannot be carried out in the same way as if it were intercourse. The anus is a sphincter other than the vagina; each dilates in different ways , and requires different stimulations. Insufficient stimulation before penetration usually causes pain, and the rejection of this practice, understood as something painful. But anal sex doesn’t have to hurt if we put a few tricks into practice. Caresses, kisses, and any practice aimed at stimulating the person who is going to receive the penetration (what we know as preliminaries) are essential to increase their arousal, thus allowing the correct relaxation of the muscles. In short, and as Carlos Horrillo points out: “It is a practice that requires patience and affection.”
3. Get yourself a good lubricant
The next tip, essential so that anal sex is not painful, is to get a good lubricant. The vagina has natural lubrication, but not the anus, so lubrication becomes an essential requirement to avoid unnecessary damage. When initiating penetration, it should be done gradually, to gradually dilate the sphincter. For this, communication is essential: expressing what we are feeling to the other person at all times will ensure that we can achieve a pleasant stimulation. Anal sex doesn’t have to hurt, if done right.
4. Maintain good hygiene
It is understandable that many people have doubts, or even rejection, at the idea of having anal sex, since this is a waste orifice. To guarantee a satisfactory experience, hygiene is essential: it is recommended to wash the area properly before having sex with soap and water . Other practices, such as the famous ‘enemas’, which empty part of the large intestine, are not considered necessary. The rectum, the area to be penetrated, should not itself harbor fecal material; this only happens at the time of evacuation ”.
5. Take precautions
Like any sexual practice, anal sex is not without its health risks: sexually transmitted infections or STIs (formerly known as STDs) come into play. Therefore, the use of a condom is essential. But there is more. The definitive advice to enjoy good anal sex, especially in heterosexual couples or homosexual women who practice it, is that the condom should be changed after penetration if another hole is going to be penetrated, such as the vagina. The reason, in addition to hygiene, is that the bacteria that live naturally in the rectum, mainly those of the E. coli type, can cause a serious infection in the urinary tract. It is frequent that, ignoring these advice, a condom is reused to use both orifices, or the penis or the sex toy that we are using for anal stimulation is taken directly to the mouth or vagina of the sexual partner. To avoid this, always wash the penis or sex toy before, or change the condom.
Now you know how to practice anal sex safely and without complexes. Meet interesting people in your area of Madrid and Barcelona through JOY Club, whose mission is to strengthen sexual self-confidence and unite sexually liberated people to live authentic exchanges and real pleasant experiences.
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