Some have to do with specific traumatic moments or toxic relationships that destroy self-confidence and undermine self-esteem . Others are derived from physical factors (defects, size of certain parts involved …) and problems of acceptance of the body itself. But most of these insecurities of a sexual nature are cultural, because many people assume that society demands a certain performance from them in bed , which produces a great psychological pressure that leads to developing a complex.
Among men, the most common complexes have to do with the fear of not being able to achieve an erection – the dreaded trigger – and insecurity regarding the size of the penis . Among women, some complexes have to do with physical appearance – being fat -, others with erotic attractiveness – small breasts – and others with dexterity in sexual performance – fear that the partner will think that it is bland in bed. or with the inability to reach orgasm.
The main problem with suffering any of these traumas is that insecurity leads to obsessive self-observation . Instead of letting yourself be carried away and enjoying sex, you dedicate yourself to seeing yourself from the outside and that makes you lose fluidity and relaxation in relationships.
