The swinger practice, better known as partner exchange, comes from the word ‘ swing’ , which means ‘to swing’. There are many people who, at a given moment in the relationship, decide to ‘swing’ from their usual sexual partner to a different one through the consensus of both parties, and there are many reasons involved in this decision. To begin with, not all couples who establish a relationship enter into a monogamous modality, but some introduce a third (or more) people into the relationship. If there is also an emotional involvement with more than one person, we may be talking about polygamy or polyamory.
Despite the fact that in the collective imagination, love is built on the idea of monogamous relationships, desire and affections work differently. According to the psychologist and therapist Luis Muiño, it is frequent that, as a couple, one of the members feels occasionally attracted to another person, without this implying an emotional or sexual infidelity. To tackle these emotions, which can occasionally occur as a couple, there are some sexual options with which the members involved feel comfortable, and they can serve to give free rein to these fantasies: the exchange of couples is one of them. Here are some tips to become a swinger couple from the hand of JOY Club, a community with more than 3 million members aimed at all those who want to enjoy open sexuality.
Most often, the exchange of couples consists of four people (two couples) who know each other and are attracted to each other having sexual relations with one or more members of the other couple (in heterosexuals, usually of the opposite sex), and that this relationship is solely sexual; often sporadic. Being a ‘controlled’ experience and that, in addition, it is lived as a couple, this helps to reduce jealousy or the emotional stress of feeling that our partner may be ‘betraying’ us. In fact, the usual thing is that the couples who are exchanged are present in the same room when the sexual relationship takes place, or that they themselves also participate in it in some way.
Consensus is the key
In the book The Myth of Monogamy , David Barash, a psychologist at the University of Washington and an expert in animal behavior, and Judith Eve Lipton, a psychiatrist at the Swedish Medical Center in Washington, explore jealousy as a natural tendency of the human being, that is, as a phenomenon that is not only learned by culture. In the book the following is quoted: “The instinct to be promiscuous is natural, but the tendency to hate that your partner does the exact same thing is also natural.” This means that, as much as a couple is willing to participate in an exchange, it is important to establish rules that both partners feel comfortable with, to avoid unnecessary emotional damage.
One of the strategies can be, as we have already mentioned, involving your sentimental partner in the extramarital relationship can help promote a climate of trust that alleviates possible irrational jealousy. In the same way, there are also people who will even find it erotic to see how their partner has sex with another person . For example, the couple can reach agreements such as not kissing on the mouth or cutting off communication once a single sexual relationship has ended. Instead, other people will feel comfortable maintaining constant contact with another swinger partner with whom, from time to time, having sex, and they have no problem seeing and communicating regularly. There are many ways to become a swinger couple, but the fundamental thing is to agree on some rules for a healthy and satisfactory interaction.
Protect yourself inside and out
An important note: if we are interested in becoming a swinger couple, it is essential to maintain individuality. That is, if your partner proposes an open sexual interaction with third parties, the decision must depend on both of you: your romantic partner should not make himself feel obliged to perform sexual practices that you really do not want to do.
On the other hand, sometimes society can exert relevant pressure on this type of sexual openness decisions; But a person is not more modern or interesting because they open their relationship to new experiences, but this will depend solely on what makes the person involved feel happy and comfortable.
Finally, another fundamental aspect that the members of a swinger couple must agree on is the management of sexual health . Once the sexual relationship is open to third parties (and before, too) it is essential to use a condom.
And you, would you launch yourself to become a swinger couple with your partner? You can find interesting people in your area of Madrid and Barcelona with the help of JOY Club, whose mission is to strengthen sexual self-confidence and unite sexually liberated people to live authentic exchanges and real pleasant experiences.
Also, read on to learn tips for enjoying anal sex and a guide to the benefits of sex toys.
