What is happiness? It is something very subjective and personal; it is clear that for each person, happiness will involve different things. However, we can speak of two predominant approaches to happiness in psychology.
Children, like adults, go through certain situations or adversities throughout their childhood that are not easy to deal with. In these types of situations, they sometimes require "extra" help, or a type of emotional support that, as parents, we can offer them.
Becoming a mother has made me question many things about "old-fashioned" parenting and authoritarianism as an educational method. One of them is the apparent impossibility of making mistakes that some parents showed, in addition to apologizing to their children, either for being vulnerable or for fear of losing their respect.
For a couple of weeks I have noticed that my patience seems to be disappearing as the quarantine progresses, and consulting with other mothers, I have realized that I am not the only one.
This year that we are about to end has undoubtedly been one of the most difficult for all of us. Our lives changed dramatically and many families lost someone they loved. But even in the darkest moments, we can find a little light.
As parents, it is normal for us to worry about our children in all aspects of their lives, from their education to their emotional and physical health. However, there is a line between being cautious parents and supervising them and being overprotective to the degree of not allowing them to learn from their mistakes.
We do not usually notice it, but children spend half their childhood having to look up to make eye contact with their elders. The reason is obvious: they are smaller and the adults taller, so they end up getting used to that position of superiority of the adult. And logically, although children are not yet capable of expressing it, nobody likes to be spoken to from above.
Surely on more than one occasion we have told our children phrases such as "you are making me nervous!", "You make me angry!", "You are running out of patience!", "You make me very sad when you do that". .. But the truth is that the only ones responsible for our emotional state are ourselves, and it is not fair to blame others for how we feel.
Danni Büchner is invited to Sam Dylan's Halloween party. But the "Goodbye Germany" emigrant has no desire for many other party guests. And find clear words.
