New mothers

They say that quarantine marks the point of return to normality after childbirth, but the reality is completely different. However, I did not internalize that it was a mistake to even think so, for fear of being called soft or "weird".

To many (myself included), motherhood comes like a bucket of ice water when what you expect is a warm and quiet bath. That cube may be a different color, but I would say the feeling is the same. The true postpartum is a taboo that has been talked about until now, and the manifestations of that overwhelming reality bath can be so diverse, that there could be as many as there are women in the world. One of them is that of women who do not dare to leave the house with their newborn babies, a phenomenon that is rarely talked about, but which is more common than we think.

The fear begins to appear when the doctor releases you from the hospital. I remember it like it was yesterday: I only managed to answer with a "already?", because after three days in the hospital, surrounded by doctors, nurses and where I felt safe, the moment of truth was approaching: seeing me with my husband, with no family to support us, scarred from a C-section, and a premature baby at home. Were we prepared? No! Nobody ever is!

Those of us who have been mothers, surely we remember those days that were endless, when our babies were very young and there were days when we could hardly even shower. I now remember them with nostalgia, although at the time they were anything but idyllic and they were a small sample of how hard parenting can be and the loneliness that can be felt at that time in your life.

When we know that a baby is on the way, we do everything possible to prepare ourselves for the great adventure that we are about to start. We read each other blogs, specialized websites, books and magazines, hoping to absorb as much knowledge as possible that can help us in the coming months.