"Punish him so he learns"; "a timely punishment saves you trouble later"; "As long as you don't punish him, he'll go to hell"... With these and other similar phrases, adults justify the need to punish children when we consider that they have done something wrong, because otherwise we believe that they will not learn or not we will be educating them correctly.
Children are not born with an off button to be able to turn them off when adults "bother us". Nor are they born with learned social norms, and until we teach them, they do not understand the importance of self-regulating their behavior and managing their emotions.
In a few days our children will be officially on vacation. Gone are the early mornings and the afternoons of homework and study, which have been especially intense in recent weeks due to the closing of the course.
Although, fortunately, more and more parents and educators are aware of the negative effect of rewards and punishments on children's development and learning, there are still many people who continue to resort to these methods, either due to the lack of other respectful resources or because they ignore their consequences.
Christmas is approaching and threatening phrases begin to children about the importance of "behaving well" so that the Three Wise Men or Santa Claus bring them all the toys.
There is a phrase that I have always liked and that as a result of becoming a mother made a 'click' inside me. It is the one that says: "love me when I least deserve it, because it will be when I need it most."
Little by little, society is waking up to physical punishment towards children if we compare it with previous generations. But unfortunately, it is still a fairly well-established practice that is not entirely frowned upon depending on what cases, and that causes damage and entails both physical and psychological consequences in the little ones.
Danni Büchner is invited to Sam Dylan's Halloween party. But the "Goodbye Germany" emigrant has no desire for many other party guests. And find clear words.