Rising children

Christmas is approaching and threatening phrases begin to children about the importance of "behaving well" so that the Three Wise Men or Santa Claus bring them all the toys.

The way we educate, or parenting style, influences the psychological and emotional development of our children. And it is that their well-being, their self-esteem and the way they have to bond, is built on the basis of education, love, limits, norms, support ...

We are not aware of the time we spend a day looking at our cell phones more than our own children. We believe that it is a harmless gesture but it is repeated more than we think; It is what is known as "distracted parenting", when we look at the mobile screen more than our children.

Those of us who have been mothers, surely we remember those days that were endless, when our babies were very young and there were days when we could hardly even shower. I now remember them with nostalgia, although at the time they were anything but idyllic and they were a small sample of how hard parenting can be and the loneliness that can be felt at that time in your life.

Fortunately, times have changed and we have proven that the father's role in parenting is very important for both mother and baby from minute one. Fortunately for everyone, behind are the times when he was a mere spectator (and sometimes not even that), in the intense and difficult first weeks of his son.

When we get carried away by the avalanche of routine, especially when we are parents, sometimes we forget the value of words. In a moment of fatigue or frustration, we may come to say things that we would not normally say ... words that in fact we would never say to someone for whom we have respect. More often than I would like to, I hear phrases like "You're a bore!" "Look how heavy you are!" or "Don't be heavy!" I think we have normalized it so much that we have come to trivialize about the consequences that using them can have with our children.

Eager for attention, more withdrawn than his little brother - who is all laughter - less responsible than his older brother ... and somewhat bland: this is the image that many have of middle brothers. But today science denies those myths and finally frees the middle of the house from the pressure of stereotype. If you are concerned about your middle child, we will tell you what you can do at home so that he is great, so that you all are.

The happiness of our children is the greatest goal we have as parents. Sometimes we believe that happiness is in great things, but the truth is that it is built on small customs that we acquire in our day to day life.