"Mom, don't kiss me!" "Don't hug me in public..." Do these phrases ring a bell? Has your teenager told you lately? And you think, how can it be that my son, who "two days" ago ate me with kisses, today does not want to receive a hug?
Surely you have ever witnessed a situation like this, or you have reproduced it yourself: scolding children in public, in front of others. And don't feel bad if you've ever done it, we're human.
Connecting emotionally with our children has very important benefits for their development; among them, the strengthening of their self-esteem, self-confidence and the improvement in our relationship.
It is a reality: children need to feel loved and validated in order to build a healthy and strong self-esteem, as well as a solid and adequate self-concept (that is, the image they form of themselves). And we achieve this in part thanks to positive reinforcement during parenting.
The establishment of limits in parenting is essential for our children to develop as good people, capable of acting in society and living with other people.
The task of raising children is quite complex, and requires a great effort on the part of parents and/or caregivers who, in this journey, often make some mistakes that can be detrimental to the self-esteem of our little ones.
For many parents, one of the most frequent problems they face during parenting is the disobedience of their children, which is nothing more than refusing to do what is asked of them. This is a much more frequent inconvenience than you might think.
Complaints are one of the most common resources used by children (mainly younger ones) to express when they feel dissatisfied, disliked or uncomfortable in a situation. However, despite being a perfectly normal resource, this can become manipulation when the children settle in the complaint.
Danni Büchner is invited to Sam Dylan's Halloween party. But the "Goodbye Germany" emigrant has no desire for many other party guests. And find clear words.
